The Metamorphosis of Motherhood
Coined by anthropologist Dana Raphael in the 1970s and more recently brought into mainstream understanding by psychologist Dr. Aurelie Athan, matrescence gives name to something millions of women experience but rarely have the language to describe. It is that in-between place: where joy meets grief, excitement meets fear, and confidence meets uncertainty.
Matrescence is the physical, emotional, hormonal, social, and spiritual transformation a woman undergoes as she becomes a mother. Much like adolescence, it is not a moment, but a gradual, often messy process of identity shift and personal growth; a layered journey—the unfolding of a new identity.
It encompasses not just the birth of a baby, but the birth of a mother. And that deserves to be acknowledged, respected, and supported. But most importantly, it’s normal.
Just as adolescence transforms the body and identity, so too does matrescence—but for mothers.
— Aurelie Athan, PhD
Too often, our healthcare system focuses on and is built around clinical milestones — antenatal appointments, birth plans, baby weights, and developmental screenings. While these are essential, they don’t always make space for the evolving emotional and psychological journey of becoming a mother.
Choosing a healthcare provider who understands and embraces the concept of matrescence means choosing care that sees you — not just your body, or your baby, but your whole self in transition.
This kind of care honours:
- The emotional complexity of pregnancy and postpartum
- The identity shift from woman to mother
- The need for continuity in support, particularly in breastfeeding and early parenting
- The validity of your feelings, even when they don’t align with social expectations
- The importance of informed, respectful care that empowers rather than directs
When you support the mother, you support the entire family.
— Ina May Gaskin
Instead of rushing you toward “bouncing back,” a matrescence-informed approach gives you permission to slow down, honour the changes, and find strength in your vulnerability.
During pregnancy
You are encouraged to explore your emerging identity, hopes, and fears — not just plan for a birth.
Embracing emotional, relational, and hormonal changes, and preparing for identity shift.
In the postpartum period
You are seen not just as a caregiver, but as a person recovering, adjusting, and evolving.
Recognising that healing is not just physical, but emotional and existential.
In breastfeeding and infant care
Your experience is centred — because supporting you is the key to supporting your baby.
Understanding that feeding a baby also awakens deep instincts, vulnerabilities, and questions. It’s not just about latch — it’s about connection.
There is no transformation more sacred—or more overlooked—than becoming a mother.
— Ksana, Founder of Matressence